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The Sims 3 Guide to Having Kids

Pregnancy, Twins, Adoption, and Choosing Boy or Girl

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This Sims 3 Guide was originally written for the PC and Mac versions of the game, but also will help owners of the console versions - PS3, Xbox 360 and Wii. Please remember some info or numbers may have changed.

In this The Sims 3 Guide to Raising Children, I hope to teach players about many aspects of being a parent and caring for children in the game. What you'll learn about raising kids from this guide is not only for Pc and Mac owners, but also serves the console Simmers who own an Xbox 360 or Playstation 3. Sim parents have responsibilities to their kids, to give them a good life and raise them to be successful. I'll help with information on the multiple ways to have a baby in the game, how to adopt, and woohoo to get pregnant successfully.

You'll find tips for every stage of childhood in the Sims 3, from baby, on to toddler and finally a child growing into a teenager. The different gameplay mechanics that determine how successful your Sims are as parents are explained, to help their kids make good grades in school, make friends, and study hard. Children raised carefully from babies all the way to adults will be the most successful Sims, because they can have a massive jump start on life, learning skills, and later choose a career and lifetime wish. They'll likely accomplish reaching the pinnacle spot in their chosen career, and completion of the lifetime wish in a shorter life span than any adult made with Create-a-Sim.

This first page deals with getting a kid in the first place, and your various options for doing so. Caring for babies and allowing trait selection is also a highlight. Look to the other sections of this guide for specific articles on raising kids from babies and toddlers, children, and finally as teens.

How to get a Baby: Getting Pregnant with The WooHoo! Method

This is the first and most obvious option for having a child in the Sims 3. Keep in mind that this will make an infant, and they can be time consuming to care for. It is better, much like in life, to have a planned pregnancy that is preceded by some money saving, career advancements and goal fulfillment by the parents. Some players might prefer to adopt an older child instead to skip these tough early life stages.

To make Sims woohoo and get pregnant, they must really like each other. To try for a baby, and expect a pregnancy, you must specifically use the try for baby action. Sims will rarely get pregnant by simply using Woohoo. The relationship bar will need to be very close to full for the action to succeed. Failing at a woohoo attempt can cause Sims' relationships to drop a touch, so trying to put the moves on too early can cause it to be harder to do later. To make Sims WooHoo for a baby, get them feeling into it, and find the action under the romance section. This will also appear as an option when two Sims are relaxing on a bed together.

If you want a greater chance at making babies with the woohoo try for baby action, take the fertility treatment lifetime reward. This will also boost the chances that your Sims have triplets and twins. This is not a good thing if you're a first time parent in the Sims. It can seriously ruin the game. Be sure you've tried the experience of parenting first before taking this route.

Cheating to Have Twin and Triplet Babies
There are no pregnancy cheats to help you have twins or triplets, but a gameplay mechanic does influence this. If you want your Sim to get a high chance of getting pregnant with twins or triplets, as stated above, the first step is likely to get the fertility treatment. If both the mother and father Sims have it, this will help increase the chance for multiples even more. Additionally, having the mother Sim read pregnancy books, watch KidZ Zone TV and listening to children's music on the stereo will boost your chances of multiples. Pam had great luck getting twins and triplets by doing a combination of all these things.

A Simple Cheat for Choosing the Gender of the Baby: For Having a Boy Eat Apples or Eat Watermelons to Have a Girl
The second 'pregnancy cheat'. Before a Sim is visibly pregnant, you should have them eat one of two fruit in order to have the baby be a boy or girl. If you want to have a boy, eat apples. For having a girl baby, eat watermelons. Head to the supermarket and buy the chosen fruit. Buy about ten, that should do the trick. Have your pregnant Sim eat all 10 of them (click the little arrow on the apple icon to queue up individual apples). This is the only way to choose between boy or girl, as there are no console cheats to affect pregnancy.

Being Pregnant in the Sims 3

Sims 3 Parenting: Kiss the baby How to tell if the Sim is Pregnant
Sometimes, but not always, when Sims try for a baby a "Rock-a-Bye-Baby" tune will play. The way you'll know for sure your Sim is pregnant is when she starts running to the toilet with morning sickness. If that's cropped up, the woohoo has definitely made her pregnant. It is during this phase that you should decide: boy or girl?

Sims 3 Parenting: Third TrimesterVisibly and Officially Pregnant
After about a day, your mommy Sim to be will begin wearing maternity clothes. A Sim in the World Renowned Surgeon position of the Medical Career Track can see the gender using the 'Determine Gender of Baby' action at this stage of the pregnancy. If you do this, it will lock the gender in place and cannot be changed. You can use the apples and watermelons up to the day before birth (third trimester) to change the gender of the baby.

Maternity Leave
At this point the Pregnant Sim will be on Maternity leave, and will get paid for days she's supposed to work. This will give the new mom a relaxed pregnancy and a few days to tend to the baby before getting back into the work routine.

The Third Trimester
When your baby's a day away from birth, the mom will be in the third trimester of pregnancy and can't really do much. Focus on keeping her happy to ensure a healthy pregnancy and give baby good traits.

Infant Trait Selection: Keep Mommy Happy!
Some people have said that you should read pregnancy books to allow for the baby's trait selection. From my experience it didn't really matter. The baby gets to choose two traits with or without reading them. What does matter is the mother Sim's mood. She needs to keep her needs met, stress down and stay happy (keep that mood bar high). If you fail at this, the baby's trait selection will be out of your hands. The traits you choose will carry on until moving up to the third life stage from toddler to child.

Sims 3 Parenting: A Sim in ContractionsGiving Birth
Sims prefer to have babies at a hospital. My Sims have had them at home. They just popped up out of nowhere. Other times, it's treated more like an emergency and both parents will want to be at the hospital. At this point, you'll get to name the baby then, if Mom was happy, you'll get to pick the little boy or girl's traits.

For Single Sims: Or How Men Can Steal Child Custody from Women
Here's some help for if your Sim just wants to continue their bloodline, and stay single without moving in any Sims other than a new baby. When two Sims who live separately make a baby, the woman will always have "custody" of the child. So for female Sims, this is no problem. Males will need to convince the female to move in with the baby, then you'll need to take control of the female Sim and make her move out using the cell phone. Wicked Sims might want to make the female do all the work, and move the kid in after it has grown to toddler or childhood phases of life, but you can guarantee good development by taking control.

How to Adopt a Baby, Toddler or Child in The Sims 3: The Adoption Method
The second option for having a baby in the Sims 3 is to use the adoption service. Use your Sim's cell phone to 'call for services', and select the Adoption service. A social worker will come to your Sim's house shortly, where you'll be given the option to choose the gender and age of the child you wish to adopt. You do not, however, get to choose the ethnicity of the child or their traits. You never know how the adopted child will start out. However, you can control whether they later get good or bad traits dependent upon how well taken care of they are, and whether they learned to walk and talk before advancing to childhood.

The third option: starting a family with a toddler in Sims 3's Create a Sim
Sims 3 Parenting: A Hired Baby SitterThis last option for getting a kid in the Sims 3 is to make the child when you start the family in Create-a-Sim mode. You do get to select several traits, and determine the looks of a toddler as well as pick their favorite food and music. Once you've created the first child, or even adult in create a Sim you can make them a twin by clicking the ... next to their portrait. However, starting a game with a child can be very challenging. Early in a game, Sims are usually quite poor and it's harder to advance in careers and skills while caring for the kid. Think you're going to get a promotion the next day at work? Nope. The baby was up all night and your Sim had to go to work in a rotten mood. Planning to go to the gym? Single parents will usually need to shell out $75 simoleons for a baby sitter.

Planned Pregnancy
As you can see, the best options for having a baby in the Sims 3 are the first two. You will have control and will be able to decide when the Sims are ready to have the baby. You can even skip the hardest stages of childhood, baby and toddler, by going out and adopting a child. To prepare for the baby, have your Sims work on some skills they know they'll need, save up some money for a crib, high chair and some toys. You may even need to add a room to the house so the kid can have their own room.

I find the best time to have a child is to WooHoo once a Sim has made it to the pinnacle of their career. The work hours are usually very much relaxed compared to lower-ranked jobs, and the salary will provide plenty of money for raising the family. Single Sims will have the hardest time raising a child, while married Sims will have a much easier go at caring for the children.

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Comments (175)

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Lunatic says...
Hey guys,is it possible to get twins boy-girl?if yh,can u plz tell me how?
Ever since the Pets patch, it's more likely than to get two of the same gender.  Just don't eat apples or watermelons while the mother is pregnant.    For more information, check out the link below to a thread on our forum.,3407.0.html
15th June 2013 3:24pm
Izzy says...
Actually, yes. It will turn out randomly, But it does help to get the fertility treatment for both parents.
4th July 2014 10:14am
Gillenar says...
My sim had triplets and 2 were boys and 1 was a girl. My sim watched about an hour of kidz zone (she is childish and I stopped this as soon as I saw this) and no fertility treatment. Not fun when your sims are poor and you have taxes doubled and set to monday, wednesday and friday.
7th July 2014 6:01pm
Lady Jynx Ashling says...
if you use the fertility treatment for both parents and use the procreation elxir for both and u will have a very good chance of multiples.

I have done both the treatment for both and had both drink the potion and every single time they got pregnant after there were multiples and it worked the same for several new games I started.

and most of the time the multiples were different genders in a single pregnancy...i don't know if this helped but for most of the pregnancies i had her eat the exact same amount of apples and watermelons to ensure both genders incase it was multiples and each time it was multiples and dif gender babies...

and when i had her just have one fruit type (a bunch of apples or a bunch of watermelons) the multiples came out the same gender

so yea if u guys want the same results give it a try :)
23rd July 2014 5:58am
queenofthemokes23 says...
I have had it where the mother was suffering from the Mummy's Curse and she got pregnant and the baby was born with the curse........I have also had quads happen ONCE without cheats.
25th July 2014 10:20am
vanessa ng says...
how do i play
12th October 2013 7:05pm
candis says...
My lesbian couple had a baby once, I think it was a glitch because the both got pregnant and both had boys that looked exactly alike.
25th February 2014 3:19pm
Zoey says...
My sims got marrid and had 10 babies at once without woohoo or try for a baby my sim is turning red from stress and im not sure whats going on then the babies glitched and had babies
22nd November 2012 2:04pm
Lily says...
You mght have to make a new sim family or buy a modern sim pc game c; if that dont work then call for help service
23rd November 2012 3:36pm
Zoey says...
Thanks :D
15th December 2012 5:32pm
Avery says...
how can your babies have babies and how can you have 10 babies!
3rd December 2012 2:12am
Kerry says...
this is impossible unless the babies move out because you can only have up to 10 people in one household :P
29th December 2012 3:01am
Lala says...
I think that the limit is 8.
14th April 2013 7:01pm
MeganC says...
Something happened that was a little puzzling, but rather hilarious. My brother was playing sims and made his female pregnant. He was really bad at the game, and she was MISERABLE the entire pregnancy. When it came time to have the baby, she had it at home. Instead of spinning around and the baby appearing in her arms like usual, it appeared on the floor in a puddle. It was pretty funny.
15th September 2013 8:38pm
Rocky says...
Getting sims 3 tomorrow any ideas on which one
8th May 2013 8:52am
AllySimmer says...
You have to get the base game first for any of the expansions/stuffs will work.
29th June 2014 5:55pm
danica says...
i love the sims
7th March 2014 9:31pm
Me says...
How can you choose a baby's favourite colour??
You can't.  It's randomized but when they get older there is a LTR that allows you to change all the favorites.  Or you can use the Edit in CAS cheat when they are a toddler.
26th June 2013 2:58am
yoyoyobro says...
My sim has five kids, and one of those huge houses with four floors. and it's saying I can't have anymore kids?
Sims are limited by the amount of Sims you can have in a household, not the house size.  There is a limit of eight active Sims (without mods) so if you have eight people in your house, including roommates then that is all you can have.   If you have the Pets expansion, pets also take up household slots.  With pets, you can only have a max of ten Sims in the household So if you have 1 Sim with 5 kids and 4 dogs then you would not be able to add any one else.
2nd June 2013 5:01pm
HaruNaeil says...
Are we able to split up the household? I have 8 sim's in one home, but I see no way of giving each couple their own place. 4 girls and 4 boys. I have empty homes set up for them but when I try to move, EVERYONE moves.
26th June 2014 4:59pm
Macy says...
You need to sell the houses and then have the sims you'd like to move repurchase the house that you don't own.
27th June 2014 2:20pm
Julia says...
My sim had triplet girls after having twins! I got the Fertility Treatment for both parents and had them try for a baby. Then I had the mom eat a lot of watermelons during her pregnancy, watch the Kidz Zone and listen to children's music all while reading a book on pregnancy.
The thing I find weird is that one of my daughters, Makenzie, got 'thinner' while she was still a toddler. The game said she worked out very hard and was able to lose weight.... how can that happen to a toddler?
It's a glitch with the memory system.  The game is registering that your toddler inherited one of it's parents body types and of course that makes it a memory.   I've had infants and toddlers suddenly become stronger, too.
3rd June 2013 7:01am
Hi says...
I just had an adorable baby boy. And now I want a girl but no matter how much I try I can't get her pregnant again. And yes I use the try for baby option but I have tried this a lot like for 3 sim days straight and nothing. Is there a glitch or something because I really want another kid.
21st April 2014 10:32pm
Simmylala says...
When your Sim finds out she is pregnant, eat 10 watermelons from your garden or the supermarket.

For twins, watch the Kidz Zone on TV while pregnant up to 1 Sim hours, or buy the Fertility Treatment Lifetime Rewards, which increases your chances of triplets.

Note: when buying the Fertility Treatment Lifetime Reward, buy it BEFORE your Sim Tries for a Baby, otherwise it doesn't work.

Hopefully this helped :)
15th July 2014 1:33am
Simmylala says...
It helps to Try for a Baby until you hear a jingle, or you could buy the Fertility Treatment before you Try for a Baby, and it helps to have Sims with a Family-Oriented trait, and you could be pregnant on the first go!
16th July 2014 7:07am
Lady Jynx Ashling says...
use the fertility treatment and the procreation elxir for both parents then try that should do the trick:) ..thou there will b a good chance of multiples too...
23rd July 2014 6:02am
Brittney says...
Ok hey everyone! I'm getting ultra frustrated! I have all the expansion packs and no mods.

I have this family where the husband and wife are both werewolves and I built them this huge house with the intent on having them have twins or triplets and to fill the house! Both of them have the fertility treatment ltr
The first pregnancy
I had both of them drink the procreation elixer and then I had them try for baby and they read pregnancy books and only had one daughter.
Second pregnancy
Again procreation elixer and pregnancy books but this time she read the books and listened to kids music and watched kids tv for the entire pregnancy! She only left the room twice to throw up! And again she only had one daughter!!!

I want multiples!!!!
17th October 2013 12:57pm
Somaye says...
I'm from Iran it's so interesting for me to meet your site!I'll come back again...
29th July 2013 4:44pm
Kit says...
OMG I need help! I really want to use this on sims, But it wont let me even play it without all this sign into origin and update origin. But the thing is, I updated origin, still says it. but now it wont let me log in!!! PLZ HELP!!!
31st July 2013 5:50pm
Ashley says...
I cant get any of the cheats to work other than motherlode. I have tried everything, including testingcheatsenabledtrue and it said it was unknown. Can someone please help me. I also have been trying to get her pregnant and she wont. I have tried this with different sims and none of them will get pregnant.
5th December 2013 1:12am
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