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The Sims 3 Parties

Throwing a Great Teen, Birthday, or Wedding Party for Sims 3

By Tom Schlueter

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This Sims 3 Guide was originally written for the PC and Mac versions of the game, but also will help owners of the console versions - PS3, Xbox 360 and Wii. Please remember some info or numbers may have changed. It focuses on throwing parties, and discuesses setups that work universally for any type of party. Wedding parties, teen parties, pool or birthday parties. You'll learn to make all your gatherings a success.

The Sims 3 Party Shot

Meet Your Party Host: Rage McDefcon5
"Get off my lot and leave me alone!" Okay, am I insane to create an angry old man to be the main character in a party throwing tutorial? Quite the contrary. Rage is the one who is insane. Not only is he insane, but he also has the following traits: Evil, Hot-Headed, Loner, and Mean-Spirited. Of course, I went a bit over the top with Rage's personality, but I did so to illustrate the first pillar of throwing great parties: Party Pillar: #1 Your Sim's traits do not matter at all. That's right. Choosing Party Animal is a total waste of a trait slot. Friendly, Charismatic, Good, Schmoozer...? Yes, these are all great traits, especially for the Political and Journalism careers, but you don't need these traits to throw a great party. Any traits will do because it's all about your guests.

I did use the "testingcheatsenabled true" cheat to shift-click the mailbox and chose "Make Me Know Everyone." I did this so that everyone who showed up to Rage's party was at the same relationship level - Acquaintance. Formerly, I had the notion that if you invite over a bunch of close friends, then your chance of throwing a great party goes up. I mean, who wouldn't think that, right? In real life, if you invite 10 of your closest friends over for a party vs. 10 people you just met, then it doesn't take a genius to figure out which party will be more successful. But, this is the Sims and not real life. Sims 3 Party pillar #2: Your relationship with your guests does not matter. There is the special case of Campaign Fundraisers. And in that special kind of party, then a host's relationship strength has a direct impact on how much a particular guest will donate at the end of the party.

So, we've established that your Sim's traits do not matter and his relationship to his guests does not matter. What does affect a successful party in the Sims 3?

Sims 3 Party pillar #3: Guest Mood
This is the whole deal. The big enchilada. And the only thing you really need to focus on for your party to be epic. How you achieve #3 runs the gamut and is only limited by your creativity.

Party Mood Management 101
Let's take a look at the 6 needs bars of any Sim: Hunger, Bladder, Energy, Social, Hygiene, and Fun. All of these feed into the main Mood Meter. If they're nearly all green, then a Sim will be Elated and leave your party with 2 thumbs up. Don't concern yourself with Energy or Hygiene for your guests. Those are pretty much out of your control. But, the other 4 needs you can definitely influence:

Hunger- Don't let Party Guests Starve
There are plusses and minuses to getting the buffet table for a party. The plus is that it's passive - just set it up and let Sims eat whenever they get hungry. Another plus is it can feed an enormous quantity of Sims. If you order a pizza or fix a group serving of food, then you're only talking about 8 servings. But, the fact that the buffet table is passive is also a downside. You can't click on the buffet table and order everyone to take something like you can with the pizza or a plate of food you prepare. So, Sims will not eat from the buffet table unless they are hungry and your goal is to give them that Nice Meal moodlet and then quickly move them to a group activity for fun (parties only last about 4 hours). Plus, the initial outlay and the per usage fee of the buffet is pretty steep. All in all, I'd say don't use the buffet table and opt for a pizza or your own home cooked meals.

Bladder - Partygoers can't have fun with the urge to go.
This is not a big concern for you as a host. Don't ignore it, but just have a single toilet stall in a convenient location if you prefer the outdoor design style as I do, or one bathroom indoors in you go traditional design. Make sure there's plenty of walking space around the stall/bathroom.

Social and Fun at Parties
I'll talk about below and can be easily tackled with a group activity.

Passive mood boosts for Party Guests
Don't forget to take advantage of passive mood boosts for your guests. The simplest 3 are 1) Beautiful Vista, 2) Nicely Decorated, and 3) Enjoying Music. You can see from Rage's warm welcome picture above that he lives on one of the "Beautiful Vista" Sunset Valley lots (100 Redwood Pkwy). It's quite cheap at only $3k, but provides a 24/7 +15 moodlet. For Loves the Outdoors Sims and Over-Emotional Sims, the Beautiful Vista moodlet gets amplified even more. And, of course, there are many nicer lots available which result in even bigger Beautiful Vista moodlets.

To get a Nicely Decorated moodlet in your Party Pad, you don't have to spend thousands upon thousands of simoleans. I achieved it with only 3 items totaling around $1200 - 2 rugs and a statue. Having a painter in your house of course is the ideal - just hang some Masterpieces around the dancing or TV area for a great mood booster.

The Sims 3 Party Shot

The Ultimate Sims 3 Party Set Up
Everything's ready for the party. 2 Chandelier Rugs, and one Urn of Ranco will supply guests with a Nicely Decorated moodlet. The lot will provide the Beautiful Vista moodlet. The nice stereo will provide 3rd simple passive moodlet, Enjoying Music, and the pizza is hot and ready to be eaten for a quick Nice Meal moodlet. Rage looks like he's excited to make the call and meet some new friends. Is that a smile, Rage? Well, on second thought maybe he only passed gas.

So, what Sims are on the guest list for the Party? I had to call the Goths and Agnes Crumplebotom simply because all four of them have the Grumpy trait. I figured if they would sign off on Rage's party, then anyone would. I also invited the 3 Landgraabs, and Holly and Nick Alto.

The Sims 3 Party Shot

Dancing at Parties: Vertical Woo Hoo
After everyone polished off the pizza, Rage moved to the dance floor and threw down like John Travolta. I call group dancing Vertical Woo Hoo because, like Woo Hoo, it quickly fills both Social and Fun bars. It's just awesome. Have your Sim "Call Over to Dance" every guest on the lot and it's mass fun. Group TV on a really expensive TV raises the fun bar quicker for your Sims, but for pure player enjoyment I think group dancing takes the cake. It's just so fun to watch.

Nine Sims showed up to Rage's party. All of them were only Aquaintances, and 4 of them were Grumpy. The final result? All 9 said the party was awesome. So, throwing a great party in The Sims 3 is certainly not rocket science and doesn't take huge amounts of simoleans. If you want to grab the Legendary Host reward, go for it. It's only 5k points and you'll be assured of everyone having a great time. But, with these simple tips, you can easily save yourself the points on spend them on other rewards. And all of these tips can be applied to any party - a Wedding Party, a Birthday Party, or a Campaign Fundraiser. It's all the same - keep your guests' mood high and everyone leaves happy.

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Lydia says...
Once, the first time I hosted a wedding party, I didn't know the guests gathered around when you choose the "get married" option. I used Cheats to keep moving Sims back to the place where the wedding was being held. The next day I kept hearing cries of agony from somewhere but I couldn't find where. I later found out that three Sims that attended the party were trapped UNDER the house. Like in the foundation. When I moved them to the yard, they said, "that was a great party" or something, and ran off.
24th June 2014 12:15pm
PumpkinFly says...
XDD This is great
2nd December 2015 12:20am
Jessika De Lair says...
I threw a perfect wedding! It was beautiful! I created a community lot using 100 Redwood Parkway that had everything I needed. I have 3 buffet tables surrounding a dancefloor with flowers in the gaps. I had a few hottubs installed and a massive eating area (Three high chairs 'cause they had triplets before getting married.) Of course I had a wedding arch and water slides too! It was held on a warm sunny sunday in summer. I was also able to squeeze in a quick birthday because the broom's Mom still lived there and she was turning Elder! It left the guests elated. Thanks, Carl!
19th February 2014 11:01pm
Maiken Carina says...
A good tip: Make sure your sim has some points in mixology, so they can make party drinks and serve to the guests. It gives them positive moodlets, plus makes the party more interesting because people will start dancing on counter-tops and such.
2nd June 2013 3:29pm
Expansion Pack Master says...
That is late night only
so if you dont have late night
dont try it
17th July 2014 8:30pm
Me says...
Thanks to this guide I threw the BEST party ever! I did an outdoors one with three pizzas (just in case), the best stereo, 2 toilet stalls, three masterpieces from my super-maxed in painting and sculpting creative artistic sim, and the same lot you used. I didn't have the Legendary Host LTR, and I invited pretty much half the town, and nothing went wrong!
17th May 2013 7:37am
Kooliana says...
I just failed throwing a party because my sim was a bit occupied and the guests had to bring food because my sim burns her food every. Single. Time.
7th October 2015 10:19pm
Skip says...
During the winter in Seasons, there is option for gift-giving party. However, each time I try to do that, I get the message that there isn't enough room - despite me clearing alot of space. Can someone help me solve this issue? Thanks.
22nd February 2014 10:37am
Christina Isley says...
Try moving to a bigger lot.
2nd March 2014 6:06pm
Ella says...
Can i have ideas for toddler birthdays?
22nd December 2013 6:26am
Sims Player says...
So I played Sims 3 Pets on PS3, and when I threw a wedding everybody was just standing around. I didn't know what to do, so I told my sims to have a private wedding. I think that was the only way to do it, but after, nobody noticed and everyone left with a negative moodlet, saying the party sucked. My friend said when she did it everyone cheered. I am having my first people get married on the computer, and I hope that I will do this correctly. I am trying to invite a lot of people, so.....getting to the point; is there anything in particular you have to do for everyone to notice you getting married?
8th August 2013 7:03pm
Laila says...
I Heart Party's In the Sims 3 But the only problem is that when I invite My grumpy guests they never come.... That's nearly all my guests. Is there a Way I can fix that?
29th June 2014 7:26am
Jessica says...
Does anyone know of a mod that will allow me to save a default party guest list to invite my same group of friends instead of having to weed through strangers every time I throw a party? The closest thing I've found to help somewhat with parties is nraas letting me sort through sims based on things like gender and age and other factors but I just want something like an option to "invite the same sims from my last party" or "invite my core group of friends".
21st November 2015 12:23am
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