How To's: Romantic Interests in The Sims 3
Dating, Falling in Love, Proposing Marriage, and Having a Wedding
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In The Sims 3, your Sim can pursue Romantic Interests and have a girlfriend or boyfriend. They can deepen and strengthen those relationships until the Sims are in love. Sims can then propose marriage and eventually marry their fiancee. In this guide to Sims, romance and love, I'll talk about the various stages of a romance and how to move your Sim one step closer to finding a boyfriend, girlfriend, or partner for life. We will discuss the Dating added in The Sims 3 Generations, and how you can get Sims from going steady to proposing marriage and having a wedding.
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The first phase of romance in The Sims 3 is the Romantic Interest. This relationship level is hit as soon as your Sim (or the other) successfully completes certain romantic interactions with another Sim. If Sims are good enough friends, this can be triggered by just a little flirting, but early in a relationship a lot of interactions aren't available. Something simple like Confess Attraction is all that it takes. This will show you that the other Sim is indeed interested in yours and that a romance between them could work.
The more bold a romantic interaction, the more likely it is to fail when Sims are just starting to fall in love. As in life, it can be important to move slowly. That's not to say that two Sims can't fall in love and even propose marriage in the course of an afternoon, it's just all about the buildup. A failed romantic interaction can be a big blunder for a relationship's progress. If you move too fast, back off and try some easier things like a hug as opposed to a make-out session.
Traits Make a Huge Difference in Love
Certain traits can go a long way toward increasing your Sim's romantic success, though all Sims can eventually get married -- even those with Commitment Issues. Read the next section of this guide, Traits in Conversation, to learn about how those traits can make an impact. For love, the simplest information I can provide is that Charismatic, Friendly, Flirty, and Hopeless Romantic Sims are going to have an easier time finding a girlfriend or boyfriend. Spot another Sim who's a hopeless romantic (like one of my targets for this guide, Blair Wainwright) and they're in the bag. My flirty Sim was able to become her boyfriend in just a few short hours, as she accepted almost every pass he made. Of course this scenario would be quite different if she were Unflirty, but there's no nut you can't crack with a little patience and perseverance.
At any rate, once a Sim has been made a Romantic Interest more of the love socials will succeed, giving you a lot more options for how your Sim and potential Partner will proceed. The First Kiss interaction will unlock a few more options for kissing. Sims can be very conservative lovers. There's no need for things to get too hot and heavy in order for them to get engaged and wed.
Tone of Conversation - Turning up the Heat
As in other forms of communication between Sims, like the routine chat, the Tone of conversation will determine what options are available to you. When a Sim is being very alluring, they can really bring on the moves. Gaze into their eyes, embrace them, and whisper in their ear. Of course, interactions like this can be found under the special categories for traits even when you haven't set a tone. This is just one perk to having certain traits like Hopeless Romantic and Flirty.
When your Sim is being irresistible, they will have the option to ask the other Sim to go steady. This will set them as your Sim's Girlfriend or Boyfriend. They'll have a lot more privleges in your house, and getting caught cheating with another Sim can have major consequences. Jealousy can begin to be an issue, as well so you might not want to get caught flirting. At this stage in the relationship, they can propose marriage and a lot of interactions are available from the get-go. You don't need to build up momentum to WooHoo, for example. It's a cinch as long as the other Sim is in the mood.
When your Sim has a boyfriend or girlfriend and the mood is right, they can then propose marriage. Use Romantic Interactions to make your Sim seem extremely irresistible and this will go over very smoothly. It's also how you get the option to appear in the first place unless your Sim is a hopeless romantic or possibly family oriented. This takes a bit of a high relationship to achieve. More so if one of the Sims has commitment issues. If your Sim is successful, the relationship moves up to the next highest level, fiance(e).
Husband and Wife
You have two options to get Married in The Sims 3. You can hold a wedding party and do it in style, having the vows during the party. Try to plan it to be a great one - make sure all the guests' needs are met, and they're entertained. Or give your Sim has the Legendary Host Lifetime Reward. You schedule the wedding party by using the Throw Party interface on the cell phone. If a Sim in your household is engaged, everyone in the household will automatically have this option. However, it's important that the engaged Sim be the one to throw the party. Otherwise, guests will leave disappointed because the Sim who threw the party didn't get married. Like other parties, you can set the attire and time, drawing on your list of known Sims for the guest list. The wedding can be a major wish to fulfill, and it makes the two Sims very happy. Often the parents of the couple will have a wish to see their child get married. The parents also get a nice positive moodlet for being the Father or Mother of the Bride or Groom.
If you want a glorious wedding, use Build/Buy Mode prior to the wedding party to do all of your decorations and set up. It's a good idea to have the bride/groom either already living in your household or at least be on the premises before the wedding party. Don't count on the party invitation being enough to get the groom there on time! If you control both the bride and groom, it's fairly easy to get both of them in place for the ceremony. If you control only one, you'll need to put him/her at the ceremony spot and then call the fiance(e) over. Once they are both in place, use the Romantic Interactions and select Get Married. The guests will automatically group around the couple and make the appropriate sounds for a wedding. After the wedding is finished, you'll get the screen to move the new spouse into the household (if they don't already live together).
However, if you're not into the whole party thing in the game, you can find the Have Private Wedding through the Romantic Interactions menu at any time after the acceptance of the marriage proposal. This will wed the two Sims instantly (as though they just got a marriage license). You'll be greeted with the household transfer menu, where you can bring over the spouse and select who will live where. Through either option of wedding, your two Sims will get a +50 Just Married moodlet for a couple of days.
Sims can indeed get divorced and separate. The option is found under Mean Interactions with "Break Up". Sorry, no signing Divorce papers in The Sims 3. In fact, you won't see the word "divorce" anywhere in the game. It's always called breaking up or splitting up, no matter what the exact relationship might be. Doing this will, of course, break hearts and cause a massive negative moodlet on the other Sim. When that moodlet is gone after a couple of days, interacting romantically with the ex will not be so awkward, and you can build momentum in conversation again, stepping up the romance levels and even get remarried, although the process is no different the second time around.
After Sims Break Up, they can Move out once more. You can select the Ex and use his/her cell phone and select Move. The Kick Out option is available, meaning the ex-spouse will go where ever they can without you having to choose or pay any money. Don't worry that he'll be homeless because a Sim who is kicked out will take possession of an empty house in town.
Cheating - Stealing Romance
This is a topic that has come to my email inbox multiple times now, so I'll answer it definitively here. Sims can cheat on one another - forbidden affairs are not rare in Sunset Valley or any other Sims 3 town. While you're flirting with another Sim, she may seem to say she has a boyfriend and cannot be doing things like this. Like I said, there's no nut you can't crack. Sims in relationships seem to need a bit more convincing, that is, relationship level, but they can and will cheat on the other Sim and you can even go so far as to commit full out adultery.
I found the Good Friends relationship level to be a sweet spot when my Sim was trying to woo the ladies away from their husbands. At that point, confess attraction things can move very, very quickly because of how much the cheaters like each other. If your Sim is caught by an angry husband, there's a good chance there will be a fight. Either way, don't expect the wounded partner to like it. Your relationship is going to take a massive hit. In most cases, if you want to steal a Sim from their husband or wife, you probably don't care about the consequences anyway. Asking the Sim to break up or divorce is like getting caught immediately. He'll know who took his girlfriend. And it's not just the partner/spouse who gets hurt. If a child or other family member witnesses the cheating, or even just flirting, there will be damage to the relationship and negative moodlets for betrayal.